Where has the time gone? It has been
four years since Ronnie left us. It seems like
a hundred years ago, but yet it seems like only
yesterday. Ronnie’s 4th year Mass is on
March 20th. Gracie turns 3 ½ years old
on March 21st. His first Memorial Service by the
Coast Guard at Pt. Judith is on March 25th. A’driana
will be 3 on April 20th. Time stands still for
no one, but for us, it seems like an eternity.
I (we) don’t know what to say or do most
of the time. People see us, see us laughing, working,
going to the movies, playing with Gracie and A’driana,
going about the normal (what is normal anymore)
daily grind of life and think that we are OK.
We are not and probably never will be.
We do appreciate the support
from so many of our family, friends, neighbor’s,
co-workers, especially our board of directors
and supporters of Ronnie’s foundation, and
the events that are affiliated with it. It is
hard, so hard for us, that at times we do not
know what to say or do when we are asked to attend
something for someone that for one reason or another,
we cannot or do not want to attend. We feel that
because people come to support Ronnie’s
foundation, they expect us to go to their events.
I guess under normal circumstances I would agree,
but our circumstance is anything but normal. Please
do not stop asking. There will be a time, event,
place that we will go; it has to be when we are
ready and able. It is an impossible task to be
with everyone and their families, when we are
missing such an important part of ours. Please
try to understand that it is not because we do
not want to be with all/any of you, it is because
it is so difficult. Rosemary, Jonathan, Ambur
and I do try, but when we cannot, we feel/sense
the “why not.” Please bear with us
because it has not gotten any easier. Believe
it or not, we are trying. Our friends will always
be our friends. We do believe that they too understand
some of what we are going through because they
actually take the time to listen. They don’t
have to be our friends, they choose to be. It
is not something that we would wish on anyone.
We already have too many friends in the exact
same situation as us. We do not want or need any
more members in this unfortunate group.
We are so proud of Ronnie’s
foundation and the fact that since March of 2008
it has distributed $70,000 in scholarships to
Rhode Island and Southeastern New England students.
We did not do this alone. Our hats are of to the
people on our board of directors and the literally
thousands of people who have in some way participated,
donated, solicited or volunteered to make this
work. We could not have done it without them.
Also the vendors who provide us with the best
deals on products that we give away or auction
to make each event a little better, special. We
know that many of you attend these functions on
a regular basis and we sincerely appreciate it.
In these tough economic times we realize that
this is not easy. I guess we want all of you to
know that we cannot begin to imagine where we
would be without you in our lives. Please know
that Ronnie’s foundation is extremely important
to us. It is one of the key things that keep us
focused and allows us to keep Ronnie’s memory
and legacy alive. Please continue to support us.